Sorry Gift

Expressing remorse and saying "I'm sorry"

Due to the nature of human relationships and despite our best intentions to the contrary, we will all occasionally upset the people around us with things we do or say. The closer the relationship, the easier it is to hurt the other person.

The key to maintaining healthy and meaningful relationships that withstand the occasional fight or upset is knowing when to be sorry and apologizing gracefully.

Precisely because it can be so difficult to find the right words, giving a sorry gift can be a much nicer way to express our remorse.

Gift ideas

Tickets: Special Event

Buy a couple of tickets to your favorite show, concert or movie and add a personalized message for your loved one, saying "To the leading lady in my life" / "To the leading man in my life".

Food: Driving you nuts

We all drive each other crazy sometimes, yet the people close to us still put up with us even when we are being difficult or annoying. A big bag or basket of different nuts, peanut brittle, chocolate-coated nuts, along with a note saying "I know I sometimes drive you nuts. Thank you for loving me regardless!" makes a great gift to show appreciation or to say sorry.

Animal Lover: Adopt An Animal

A great gift for all animal lovers: organizations like the WWF (www.worldwildlife.org) offer the chance to 'adopt' an animal. You usually get a certificate, a photograph and a plush toy as part of the adoption. Prices vary, depending on the type of animal you choose to adopt. Alternatively, check with your local zoo.

This gift will be extra special if you add a personal message that relates the recipient to an attribute of the animal you have chosen: "I know you are having a hard time right now, but keep going - you are strong as a bear!". If you have a special nickname for the recipient your message could also be something like "For my little monkey / tiger / etc.".

Symbols

Red Tape

A binding object in the color of danger, it symbolizes a warning to confront frustration in order to understand and dissolve them, if possible, or to accept them if a simple solution is impossible.

Tea

Serving tea is a time-honoured symbol of friendship. The Chinese ceremonial tea was established as a time to set aside conflicts and come to peace with one's self, as well as with one another.

Quotes

Forgiveness is the fragrance the violet sheds on the heel that has crushed it.

Mark Twain

Apology is a lovely perfume; it can transform the clumsiest moment into a gracious gift.

Margaret Lee Runbeck

I can forgive, but I cannot forget, is only another way of saying, I will not forgive. Forgiveness ought to be like a cancelled note - torn in two, and burned up, so that it never can be shown against one.

Henry Ward Beecher